The answer to that question seems easy and effortless. Yet sometimes we are not there mentally, which makes us off.
Life is too short to stay turned off. Light up and get horny immediately. We know how to get you in the right mood within a couple of simple steps. Together with that, we will break it down to you on how to get your girlfriend or boyfriend horny as well. Now let’s stop wasting precious time and get to the business.
How to get turned on fast by yourself
We know a lot of women who are in a relationship or have a regular fuck buddy but sometimes they are unable to cum no matter how they are trying. The same situation appears when they are trying to satisfy themselves. After failed multiple tries, they begin to think that they’ve become incapable of coming, which leads to stress and other bullsh*t that we will skip avoiding drama.
The first and the most important thing for you to understand is that there is nothing wrong with you or your body. There are just extra steps required for you to relax and get yourself to the orgasm.
Relax
That is what you need to do at first. Relax and leave whatever happened through the day behind the bedroom door. Those mental distractions are usually the main and the biggest mood-killer. It is hard to cum while you are thinking about what to pick up tomorrow at the grocery store or what a bitch that Susan was today at the office. Cut that crap and release the tension.
Water helps to relax, and this is why a shower or a bath will be a perfect way to “wash off the day” and get out as a horny newborn diva. Won’t hurt to start playing with your shower handle to get all those 8 thousand clit nerves tickle the best possible way.
Work out
Nothing sexy about 20 minutes of cardio, some would say. We disagree. It is indeed quite the opposite of relaxation, yet it is working. Once you work out, your body flow lets those endorphins rise in your body, and you are all set to masturbate.
Set the right temperature
No one likes cold hands between their legs. As well as if it is freezing in the room, you can’t focus on anything but shivering, which takes most of your energy. Make sure that the room temperature is acceptable for your body to get naked and freaky.
Explore the fantasy world
All of us have those fantasies where we are in a dreamy but sexy mood. Some of us imagine sex with hot celebrities; others think of what would have happened if they would run into their ex or any other secret desire that you have. Still, for some reason, it is never going to happen or happened already, and you are trying to relive it again and again.
Our mind is strong and can bring us to the point where our libido activates at full speed. Some can experience orgasm only from one fantasy. Women are a little too complex and might need more action out there, but you get the point.
One of the good examples oh how to fantasies was represented in our favorite TV show Sex and The City. One of the first seasons where Samantha Jones saw that church guy. He was forbidden fruit for her and nothing besides platonic relationship would never ever happen between them. Same reason Samantha spends a good day or two masturbating to her fantasy that is never going to happen.
Think of your deepest inner desires and scenarios that you wish could have happened. Popular fantasies are to try BDSM, anal sex, be a dominant to your submissive partner, and very intimate tantric orgasms together with squirt. It could be anything you want. We won’t tell anyone.
Watch erotic movies or read books
A lot of people think that porn is only some rough and ugly videos. We don’t judge, just saying that there are so many other ways to get yourself horny. No need to go far to the galaxy to get a good movie. 50 shades of Grey will do just fine if your preference is not porn. Mr Grey brings enough charm, sex, and romance in the movie. And of course, there is drama, which we suggest to skip for now. Yet we find reading books are better than the actual film.
Porn. We will stick to this scenario as well, and will not rule it out. Only because it has a massive variety of choices to explore your inner fantasies, and because it is straightforward.
Different applies to books. If you, for instance, have free time for “me” time — good erotica should be your choice of preferences. You can read page by page and get to the mood slowly, teasing yourself. Try not to touch yourself till you finish the book — erotic books are usually up to 200-300 pages — or build the tension by slightly playing with yourself while reading it.
Anyway, it is up to you. Watch erotic movies, simple porn or read books — your choice, your masturbation. We only suggest picking the most enjoyable.
Buy a sex toy
Treat yourself. A good sex toy is what you need. Even if you already have a couple of toys at home, those are old ones, and you need a new one. We found ourselves getting horny, even browsing the search and all the thoughts of how much pleasure it can present. Buy them online or make a day out of it and go to the store near you and see what they have there.
The only difference is timing. The online store will deliver it within a couple of days and up to a week, where the actual sex shop provides the service of the immediate investment, which you can try right after you get home.
How to get a guy horny
Even though we think that men are not as complex as women, we often are wrong. Daily men go through a lot of pressure as well and sometimes they need to relax and have their blood to rush down there. And we know how to do it.
Send him sexy texts
One text can change the mood in one second. Sexting is new foreplay that can start a few days before or a couple of hours before he will arrive home. Start slightly by telling him that he should expect a surprise once he will come back home later tonight. Afterwards, escalate it, telling him all the things you want him to do with you or the other way around. Here you should make the approaches according to both of your sexual preferences.
If you want to try something new but don’t know how to start talking about it — you don’t have to. Nowadays, you don’t even need to say anything. Emojis are here to help you out. Use Peach emoji together with eggplant to specify that you are ready for anal or peach emoji combined with the hand to show him that you are ready for the spanking session in his favour.
Nude pics will set the mood immediately
Once the sting has passed through and it became even hotter, you should add a naughty photo. Not necessarily a nude one. Make him beg for nudes. Send him a pic where you are revealing a tiny bit of your breasts or a nice shape of your ass.
If you can’t find a good angle, take a pic of you sucking on your finger. Trust us, he will get speechless for a moment and hard for a couple of more minutes after receiving it from you. Especially after your sexting before.
Let’s say the dirtier, the better, after all, we are trying to get this man horny as hell. How to make a stunning and sexy selfie you can read in our article.
Show him you are ready
Now let’s have a reverse situation when you are both at home, and you are starving for him to get on top of you and get inside as soon as possible. There are so many good options that we won’t even choose the best one — we will tell you all of them. It is so worth it.
It is the middle of the night or early morning, and while your partner is asleep, you are awakened and horny for him to be inside of you. You have three options to approach here.
- Slightly rub with your peachy bum against his penis up and down make him feel you and rush his blood through his body which will get his body hot and will eventually wake him up. Best to proceed with this one in the morning when he is not in a deep sleep.
- Use your hands. That works for every day and time, to be honest. But the mornings are great because he is still asleep and not aware of what is about to happen. Gently rub against his penis with your hand, then take it in your hand and start playing with it up and down. Same body flow — same reaction. He is hard and awake.
- Blowjob. Probably every man’s fantasy is to be awakened by receiving a head. Move slowly here as people do weird things when they are asleep. So to avoid any physical traumas being slow with your hand, to feel the ground, and then get down there to wrap your lips around that cock. Even thought of it will get you both horny.
Another great approach is to whisper into his ear somewhere in the middle of the dinner, that you are not wearing any underwear tonight. That will put all kinds of fantasies in his head that would lead to the ultimate horny desire towards you. And then somewhere in the cab on your way home, take his hand and slip to your pussy to prove him the wet point.
Last but not least is to let him try how wet and ready you are. Meet him naked when he is back home. Come close to him, take his hand and place it between his legs so he can feel your wetness and that you are ready for him to take you right now right here.
How to get a woman horny
We already mentioned that women are more complex than men when it comes to getting horny. But let’s cut the drama and face reality. Women are sexual beings that need sex, but instead of looks, they also much more responsive to the actions.
Compliment her
That typical “women love with their ears” myth might be true after all. Women love attention and compliments are the simplest way to appreciate the effort of her looks or personality.
But please avoid those cheesy compliments like “You look beautiful tonight” or “I like your style”. Yes, those are nice things to say but keep in mind that you are not the first person you might have said those things to her so she might be not that impressed. So we would suggest being more specific. Point out something that caught your attention. Think about what went through your mind when you saw her for that very first second of the evening.
Be sincere with your words but specific. Although, try to avoid saying how great her butt, boobs, and other parts of her body that are more sexual. Instead, compliment on her hair, outfit, smile, nails, shoes, purse, and her personality. Tell her she is funny, smart or intelligent sounds even better.
To make more compliments about her personality — ask her more questions and listen. She will tell you the things that she is proud of, and you can point it out afterwards.
Touch
Approaching a woman with a physical touch only if you can tell she is comfortable around you. You can tell that by the way she reacted to your compliments. If she was positive and responsive, try out to use physical touch.
You can divide it also into two different ways of touching: teasing touch and demanding touch.
Teasing touch will be appropriate for public places. Sensually touch her face before the kiss or slightly touch her waist while dancing or even when you are opening a door for her.
Demanding touch can be approached anywhere if we are completely honest, till no one sees. It makes you both naughty and horny but also puts that forbidden note that you are not allowed to do it in public. That way, you both will be pretty horny by the time you get home to get to the business.
Get the dirty talk going
Dirty talk here is also separated into 3 main categories. That includes sexy compliments, sexual comments, and the dirty talk itself.
At the point, you can be as open sexually to compliment her as possible. Tell her that her lips are extra soft after kissing her, Tell her ass is fine after gently squeezing it. You can come up with anything you have on your mind. Just keep it classy and sweet. Make her feel wanted on every point of your subduction.
Sexual comments, on the other hand, can get naughtier. Touching her hand and complimenting her soft skin is adding comments like “I wonder how soft other parts of your body, especially those that are covered with clothes right now.” That will ultimately send her signal to begin fantasies about your touch on her skin that makes her horny.
Remember that you are not yet in bed, so might want to try something like “Are you trying to tease me with that outfit?” You have the right to be Mr Grey here. Classy, bossy, and demanding. Don’t tell her “I wish I could fuck your mouth if were not in public” but change it to something less vulgar, like “you have no idea what I’m thinking to do to you at this very moment.” Also, try to dirty talk not about your penis only. Make it all about her. After all, it is her you are trying to get horny for you as you were ready the minute you saw her.
Read her body language
We put this extra tip just as a reminder that her body will speak to you regardless. All you need to do is to pay attention to all the signals it gave out already. She might have been ready the minute she saw you as well.
Those signals are quite simple. She will be sitting with her legs pointed your way, she will lean forward and closer to you. The same applies to slight touches. She will try to either stand close to you, friendly touch your hand, and rub against your body if the situation and the place are suitable. Get to notice those signals, and you know that you reached the goal. The next step is up to you.
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How to get horny together
Sex can be tricky either you are in a relationship or you two gathered for a one night stand. Whatever this is, here are the best ways to get horny together.
Sexting
As was mentioned before, technologies will help you out with this one, and you can build the tension way before the sex. You can start by making plans for later that night and begin to exchange ideas of what you want to do to each other. Use all you can, words, emojis, photos of you of the examples of what you are mentioning.
Foreplay
Think more through your partner. Think of what he or she would need the most to get very horny. And before you even start there, start with a long session of kissing. Tempting and sensual kissing can be surprisingly the biggest turning on foreplay.
Sex games to get horny
Those games definitely will spice up your sex life and foreplay. There are nearly a hundred sex games that you can try with your partner. Not to bore you we’ve chosen five most common games.
Sexy dice
Those will show you randomly what to do and where to do. For example, lick her pussy on the floor. You can order them online or get at the sex store. There are also the same once, but with different sex positions, you can get those for later.
Truth or dare
Great to play if you are friends with benefits and don’t forget to make those questions dirty.
Porn roulette
Go to the porn site, randomly scroll and play the video that you clicked on by accident. You can also choose categories first, to set the right mood.
Blindfold
Cover your partner’s eyes and make him or her guess what you are about to do to them next.
A question on a movie
Choose a movie you both know well or not very well. Let’s say 50 Shades of Grey again. After each wrong answer, you can sip your drink and do whatever your partner wants. Not to run out of ideas, you can put a list together with all the naughty ideas on both sides.
FAQ
How can I get myself horny?
First of all, you need to relax to sex the mood. You can take a hot bath with a glass of wine, to make that stress go away and afterwards play with yourself while watching porn or trying our your new sex toy.
How to make her horny?
Pay attention to her body language that will tell you all she wants. Drown her in compliments, sensually touch her body and move to the more sexual context in your conversation.
What to do to make my man horny?
Express him what you want. Even a straightforward “I want you to fuck me right now” will give you the needed attention and will set his mood on “horny.”